Bonus Posts: Personality

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When completing my Johari Window it was difficult choosing five traits that describe me. I did not think it would be difficult to describe myself because I live with myself everyday so it should be easy but when it comes to defining yourself and your personality in five words it is harder than you would think. This process was difficult to choose only five, I do see myself as having a big personality so it was also a challenge to consolidate myself into such a few number of words. When sending it to the people who are very close to me, only four characteristics to describe my personality overlap. There were far more words used to describe me chosen by other people that I did not think to choose for myself. This either proves that I do not know myself as well as I thought or that the people who completed my Johari Window do not know me as well as they thought. After seeing the words that they chose, I do understand why they used them to describe me, but it makes me wonder why I did not choose some of their words myself. I think that this measure of personality is valid because even though not many of my choices are the same as others, most of the people who completed this did answer in the same words. This shows consistency and I agree with most of them which shows accuracy. I learned a lot about myself because there are things about my personality that are easier for others to see, instead of me seeing it myself. This shows me things I can look at that I saw already and new things that were shown to me through my friends and families’ answers.


Spotlight: Stress

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Stress is such a difficult thing that almost everyone in society experiences it, more frequently then we probably should. Though there are many developments on how to deal with this stress. Each group, age, and type of people experience different kinds of stress. Three groups of people that I chose to research on ways to manage their stress are college students, athletes, and parents. I chose athletes and college students because I am a part of both of these groups so researching ways to manage the stress they experience will be helpful for my own life. And parenting is close to me because I am very close to my mom and I know that I cause her a lot of stress on top of other stressors in her life.

The first article I read was 10 ways that a college student can reduce their stress, it was written in 2010 so some of these strategies may be outdated or no longer as effective. I think that a few of these strategies are useful, they discuss get an adequate amount of sleeping, eating well, and exercising (Scott, 2010). Exercise is linked with both physiological and psychological benefits consistently. It also discusses seeking emotional support, which is very important because it brings someone resources and hope that things will get easier/better. Though there are some coping mechanisms that I think would be considered self-indulgence, such as getting a massage, yes this is relaxing but when the massage is over you will still have just as much on your plate. Overall, reading this article will bring you some success in reducing your stress.

The second article was focused on how athletes can manage their stress. This article only discusses five stress management tips: get adequate rest, engage in fun activities, manage your time, check your attitude, and get support (Barron, 2017). From an athlete’s point of view I think that all of these coping mechanisms would be useful. Getting support is something called self-disclosure, which allows you to talk to someone about what is stressing you out, which in some cases lifts a burden off of your shoulders. The only one that I would critique is checking your attitude, it is important to have  apositive attitude, but in some cases it is very hard to uphold this attitude all the time. Though I do believe with using other constructive strategies for coping with their stress, the positive attitude will be easier to uphold. After reading this article I think it would be very successful in helping athletes find ways to reduce some of their stress.

The last article I read was four tips that help manage parenting stress. Similarly to the previous articles it discusses using a support system, friends and family. In this article, it discusses for the first time in my research, seeking help from a professional when things become too much for you to handle. I think this is important to put in writing because in many cases people do not want to see a professional because of pride, but I think reading this article it will help people to make the decision to seek help for themselves. Turner also discusses making time for yourself, which I see as very important because parents are so caught up in their child’s life and in their significant other’s life. So it is important for a parent to take a step back and have a night or a few days for themself, which in my opinion would reduce a lot of stress. “It is okay to take a break for yourself. It’s actually healthy and more beneficial for you and your child to have some time apart” (Turner, 2013). This article would be very successful in helping reduce a parent’s stress because it points out that it is okay to take steps to help yourself, which I think many parents forget this once they become a mother or father.

Ultimately I think that these article did a fairly good job in providing ways to reduce stress levels in different groups while following the correct psychological ways to cope and reduce stress.


Stress Management for College Students:

Scott, J. (2010). College Life: 10 Ways to Reduce Stress. Everyday Health. Retrieved from

Stress Management for Athletes:


Barron, C. (2017). The Stress Management Tips For Athletes. NOVA labs. Retrieved from


Stress Management for Parents:

Turner, E. (2013). 4 Tips for Managing Parenting Stress. Psychology Today. Retrieved from


First Impression: Personality

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After completing all four personality tests, I got similar results from three of the four. And though I did not think to describe myself in the ways that the results did, they do make sense. The first test, Jung Typology Test described me as a ESFJ, the E means extravert, the S is for sensing, the F is for feeling and the J is for judging. I am 53% extraverted over introversion. The test rated me 9% sensing over intuition, 16% feeling over thinking and 12% judging over perceiving. This test is credible in my opinion, for the most part but there were some questions that I did not quite have a full understanding of in order to answer in the best way possible.

The second personality test was called the Personality Test Center (Type Theory) which also resulted in the ESFJ which this site called the “seller”. This test described ESFJ as the most sociable of all the types, this type of person makes an outstanding host or hostess and would excel in jobs with personal contact. 13% of the population are this type of person. This matches my personality pretty well in my opinion because I am outgoing and excel in areas where it requires personal interaction. This sight is as credible as the last one, it better described watch type of person with a paragraph distraction instead of just a few words. Though there were some misspelled words in the questions throughout the test.

The third personality test was the IPIP Big-Five Factor Markers which provided me with five personality traits with the percentile that I was in: extrovert (98th percentile), emotional stability (11th percentile), agreeableness (friendly/optimistic, 80th percentile), conscientiousness (diligent, 92nd percentile), and intellect/imagination (70th percentile). Though this was a real study from a .org source but it does not match as closely to the other two tests. I also do not think it is as credible because it does not have much description at all on what each five factor markers mean.

The final and least credible personality test is the Color Quiz, this was the showing of eight colors and I was asked to pick the colors in an order that made the most sense to me, and then I was asked to do it again, not necessarily in the same order. I think this is the least credible out of the four tests because there were no questions asked, just colors that I chose. It did go very far in depth in describing my results, so in depth it discussed my current situation, my stress sources, restraining characteristics that I have, desired objectives that the test said I have, and the actual problem that was all revealed by the order in which I chose the colors. Though some of the explanations were spot on, it is hard to believe it is because of actual science from colors alone rather than luck.

Overall, I think that for the most part these tests and their results that I got, they are pretty accurate on what I would describe myself as in terms of my personality.


First Impression: Intelligence

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I think that as important as your genetics are to determine your level of intelligence, there are many other factors. From the time you enter school, your intelligence is measured by tests and grades. You establish a reading level, you take tests that determine your math and science  competencies. This continues throughout the rest of your school career, and you continue to take exams that evaluate your progress in all subjects. One thing that has huge effects on a child’s level of intelligence especially during the prime developmental years, is parents, teachers and how they do in school. If children have teachers that talk to their students in a degrading way, even if it is unintentional, this affects the way the child looks at their intelligence and their ability to learn. Another huge determinant of a child’s intelligence and their ability to learn is their environment at home, if the parent or guardian’s do not promote doing well in school and working hard this will reflect in the way that they perform in school.

My mom is a teacher so before entering in to school, my education, grades, and level of intelligence was expected to be very high. I went to school where my mom taught, so the teachers that I had all throughout school knew what I was capable of and did not allow me to miss these expectations. I was lucky enough to have supportive teachers who used positive reinforcement and did not have to experience “mean” teachers you hear about in movies. Though I am sure some children to experience this and to help children in the future when they go through school, I think some changes can be made. For example, I think it would be beneficial to have more individualized evaluations of their knowledge because not every child learns in the same way and not every child can perform accurately and as well as they do in the classroom, on tests.  I myself struggle with tests because I perform well in class, on projects, and presentations, but when it come to tests I face a problem recalling information even when I am confident in knowing it. I think this small change would change the performance of students’ in the classroom because assessments weigh so much in the academic world on measuring intelligence and getting into college that it places a lot of pressure on students. This ultimately lowers performance rates so if the way assessments are done or how they are weighted is changed, I believe that will improve the performance of students because they are focused more on learning and deepening their intelligence instead of memorizing information long enough to put it onto a test.


First Impression: Emotion

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Communication is very non-verbal, more than people realize. You may have heard the saying “you wear your emotions on your sleeve”, but people should say that you wear your emotions on your face. Your facial expressions can tell a lot about what you are feeling, even when you do not realize that you are showing so much. Some people are better at detecting what people are feeling by looking at their facial expressions than others. I feel as though I am very good at reading people’s emotions without them saying it directly.

I took a quiz with people making different faces, with different emotions that you have to pick which one they are feeling. I scored 12 out of 20 correct, which means I got 8 wrong. The results summary said that I am not bad at reading emotions and my score reflects an average ability to read emotions. I thought that I would score closer to perfect, sp the results are slightly surprising to me, though I did not realize how many emotions their were. When I was evaluating myself on how well I can read emotions, I only thought about being able to identify happiness, sadness, and anger. I did not take in to consideration emotions such as politeness and shame that were asked to be identified on the quiz. The easiest emotions on the quiz were happiness, anger, and pain. The hardest ones to identify were embarrassment and compassion in my opinion. I think that this test is credible for the most part, but I also believe that emotions are shown differently from person to person so it is hard to generalize facial expressions with their meanings.


First Impression: Stress

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Stress is extremely prominent in college students because of the difficult classes, rigorous schedules, and the want to succeed brings a lot of stress on a student. A large number of college students do not know various stress management strategies that are healthy and helpful. I have a lot of stressors in my life because of sports, school, and high expectation of myself as well as from my family. This causes high stress levels almost all the time. In order to cope with this stress I do not have the best strategies, I usually just go to sleep and ignore my problems for a few hours. Other times, I make lists whether it just says to do my laundry or I sometimes go as deep as saying I need to study a certain chapter in a certain course. These lists allow me to feel like I have accomplished something, even if it is a small, easy task, at least I am being productive in some way. I think that sleeping is not working at all because it is just a way to procrastinate and avoid my assignments and studying. Making lists is very helpful in my opinion because it lays out what I need to do and shows what I have already accomplished and what I still have to do. In the future there are much more realistic and effective ways of dealing with stress. I will try to incorporate eating healthier and going to sleep at an earlier and more consistent time, without taking as many naps. These will hopefully help alleviate some of my stress, which will ultimately make me a happier person.


First Impression: Sleep

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Sleep is the periodic, natural loss of consciousness. It is so common for college students countrywide to struggle with sleep deprivation. There are many negative effects of sleep, including worser work ethic, negative moods, and lowered efficiency. I, as a college student and an athlete, struggle with juggling practice/games, homework, and studying all while having time to eat, go to class, and sleep. I would say on average I sleep between 5 and 7 hours a night. This is not a sufficient amount of sleep for someone of my age to wake up and feel energized, at my full potential for school and my athletics. I sleep so little because I have practice till 8 or 9:30 and we sometimes have away games that we return to campus at as late as 12:30. This means that studying and finishing homework takes place later because practice ends later. Often times I am up studying in my room or working on assignment in the library till 12:30-1.

A realistic amount of time I spend sleeping that I hope to reach is 8 hours. I am planning to achieve this by getting as much studying and homework done before practice so that after practice I can focus on unwinding and going to sleep much earlier. Another way that I hope to improve my sleeping habits is putting my phone on my desk before I get in to bed because I have read that the screen time you spend on your phone can keep you awake for thirty minutes after looking at it. This is in hopes that I will be able to fall asleep faster, ultimately providing me with longer amounts of sleep.


First Impression: Drugs

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The debate on whether to legalize marijuana across America has been very controversial for quite some time. There is an argument on both medical marijuana and recreational marijuana and whether it should be allowed to be used in all 50 states. There is arguments for both legalizing marijuana and the use of it remaining illegal. Medical marijuana is becoming more and more popular and is prescribed by healthcare workers to treat various diseases and conditions, such as cancers, seizures, and multiple sclerosis (MS). I think that medical and recreational marijuana should be legalized country-wide because it is not only used effectively for medical conditions, but it also can reduce stress and anxiety. Medical marijuana helps with medical issues, but it may lead to negative consequences if a person’s tolerance strengthens, which would cause a need for more of it or even a harder drug necessary to help with this same disease. Another negative effect could be the misuse of medical marijuana, especially if recreational use of marijuana is still illegal. Recreational use of marijuana becoming legalized would lead to a huge decrease in arrests, lowering overall crime rate. Though, the legalization of marijuana could cause an overuse of the drug. The legalization of marijuana could become economically beneficial because it would produce a huge profit for the country. In my opinion, I think that both recreational and medical marijuana should be legal everywhere because I believe that the pros outweigh the cons and it would be good for the country if it was legal.

Spotlight ~ Development

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Divorce is a prominent issue in not only today’s society, but also in my life specifically. I have lived through three separate divorces, my parents, and then each parent getting remarried and divorced again. Though I have gone through more than most, I believe that it has had both positive and negative effects on me and how I have turned out now that I am older. In order to determine which side is truly correct, i had to complete some research because my own life experiences just were not enough.

I began by looking at articles on the negative effects, the two articles I found were on MomJunction and Iowa State’s research website. The first one is written by Rohit Garoo who has a bachelor’s degree in science and a masters in business. I found this website to be credible by looking at the date of publication, the credentials of the author, as well as editors. This website is edited by a clinical psychologist and a bachelor of medicine. Due to all of these factors, I deemed this source credible. This article discussed ten negative effects of divorce on a child, five short-term effects and 5 long-term effects. Without discussing each of the ten effects I think the most influential effect for short-term is constant stress which is described by Garoo as the false responsibility of the divorce that the child thinks. The child puts this on themselves which can lead to so many other effects on the child. “This can lead to immense stress and pressure on the young mind, which can have several repercussions like negative thoughts and nightmares.” (Garoo, 2018) The second article I found on the negative effects of divorce on children is done by Iowa State and the article was written by Jayna Solinger, I deemed this credible because it is done by a scholarly institution, has an edu tag, and has works cited after the article. Though this article is credible, it’s one fault is that it is bias and is strongly against divorce and intensifies its effects. The general statement of this article is that it is better for everyone involved to work through the problems within a marriage instead of going through a divorce. Though I agree with the first source on the effects it has, I disagree with the second article because many divorces can lead to happy co-parenting and overall more of a positive atmosphere for the parents in each household and for the child going back and forth.

After researching negative effects, I then looked at positive effects. This may seem weird because the question may be asked, how can a failed marriage be good? The first article that I came across was from Psychology Today, written by Neil Farber who has a bachelors of science with honors in psychology who also completed dual Doctorate degrees in research in medicine, this provides a credible author, and a credible website, the date of publication is also recent.  This article addresses frequently asked questions about divorce and what the parents can do to help the children going through this and answers for these questions. At the end of the article, Farber discuss ways to have positive outcomes from the divorce and why you should do these things. The second article I retrieved from a website called Divorce and Your Money and it is written by Shawn Leamon who has a Masters of business studies. I chose this source because, though it is not written by a psychologist, it provides information on how in some cases, divorce is the better option. This article basically discusses how not all marriages can be saved, and staying together may be causing more stress on the child and the parents. With this Leamon touches on the fact that if the parents divorce this could lead to less stress, increased ability to adapt because if the child can make it through their parent’s divorce then they can adapt to anything. Shawn also discusses how it also allows how divorce gives the child on-on-one time with each parent (Leamon, 2017).

After reading these four articles on both the positive and negative effects I do not think there is a right or wrong side of the argument. There are both positive and negative effects when going through a divorce and I think that the right decision depends on each and every relationship because each one is unique. In some cases I think it is better for the parents to work through their issues, but in other cases I think it is worse to stay together and put the children and themselves through the constant fighting and conflict. Ultimately it is most important to look at your own relationship and decide what is best for the family, whether the pros outweigh the cons or vice versa to decide whether divorce is more beneficial or detrimental.                                   

  Negative Effects:

Garoo, R. (2018). 10 Negative Effects Of Divorce On Children And Ways To Mitigate Them. Mom Junction. Retrieved from Solinger, J. The Negative Effects of Divorce on Children. Retrieved from

Positive Effects:

Farber, N. (2018). Enhancing Positive Outcomes for Children of Divorce. Psychology Today. Retrieved from

Leamon, S. (2017.) Potential Positive Effects of Divorce on Children (It may not all be bad news…). Divorce and Your Money. Retrieved from

First Impression: Memory

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Unfortunately, I do not have the best study habits because in highschool very few of my courses required me to study a lot in order to receive a high grade. The most effective way that I study is making flashcards and going over these flashcards numerous times. This worked in highschool because most exams and quizzes were memorization of words and their definitions. Now entering college-level exams, tests, and quizzes I have learned that it is mostly applying the vocabulary to scenarios and problems and only a small part is writing down the definition for words. I am very successful of memorizing words and their definitions, but I am not the best at then applying this knowledge to situations on a test. I memorize things one way and if it is worded differently I get confused.


For the first exam in psychology, I studied the only way I know how, which is making notecards. And for a lot of the exam it worked because I remembered the theorists and what they did, and what kind of parenting which with what characteristics, but when it came to writing my own hypothesis and evaluating strengths and weaknesses of two things. I also struggled using the flashcards for some portions because the definition or information on a person/concept was far too extineous to remember from the back of a flashcard. For the next exam I am going to still use flashcards, but I will also incorporate concept maps so I can see all the ideas and how they relate to one another and I will also complete more practice problems that resemble exam questions. I will also begin studying earlier for the exam instead of two or three days before like I did for the last exam.