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Personally, I would not consider any of the three parenting styles the “best” way to parent and raise a child. You need to have a combination and balance of them all in order to achieve the ideal parenting style for producing children that are happy, healthy, and productive members of society.
The “tiger moms” use strict rules, discipline, and overall just drive their child really hard to succeed. These moms use this parenting style to promote success in both their child’s schooling and extra curricular actives, such as sports or learning an instrument. This style often reflects that of a Chinese culture. I think if a child grows up under this parenting they will not be happy with their lives. Not being happy with their lives can result in low self-esteem or depression because they never feel like they are good enough. This parenting can also lead to the development of a perfectionist personality because they grew up in a household where everything needed to be perfect, or else they would get punished.
“Jellyfish dads” have few rules and expectations and are essentially push overs to their kids. When I think of the product of this type of parenting I think of children that are spoiled and disrespectful, because they do not know any better. Due to the lack of respect and the impulsive behaviors these children grow up with I do not believe they would be able to be productive members of society, working for a boss, and listening to someone else’s rules or commands.
Helicopter parents are parents that tend to hover over their child, like a helicopter. They can be overcontrolling and overbearing. When I think of this term I think of a child that cannot do anything without the parent knowing their every move, or even a parent that does everything for their child, such as doing their school projects for them or picking their classes. Although this child might grow up “happy”, they will not develop any life skills because their parent(s) have always been there to do everything for them. This can result in a child growing up to not be able to be a productive member of society, or care for themselves or a family.
Overall, to achieve the “best” parenting style, you can’t pick just one. You have to have balance. There needs to be some rules and discipline, or else your child will run crazy, and can get themselves into some poor life choices. When it comes to extra curricular actives, I think it’s fine to reflect a more “jellyfish” parenting style. If the child wants to be good at something they will work at it, you cannot push them to the point where they hate doing something they once loved or always end up in tears. Being a helicopter parent isn’t always a bad thing either, for example if their child is doing poorly in school, they might need that hovering to get them on the right track.