--Original published at Makayla Hockenbrock
Parenting is very difficult topic to discuss. There are so many different variables that come into play, as well as, so many different views depending on how you were raised and how much you know about it. If you say one thing, you could offend someone. Parenting styles are all based on personal preference, but I also believe that how you parent is a reflection on how you were raised.
To produce children with who are happy, healthy, and productive members of society, I feel you need to have a blend of parenting styles. If a parent is to strict I feel the children will become sneaky and get themselves into trouble. If parents are don’t set rules, or ‘parent’ at all, then the kids will feel they are invincible and feel they can do whatever they want without having consequences.
So, what’s the best way to parent in my perspective? I think the best way to parent is as follow: set ground rules, be consistent (if you punish one child for something and the other child does it, punish them the same way), don’t have favorites, do not consistently ask questions about their personal life, be a friend sometimes and not a parent, don’t hover over them, do not push them (if they want to come to you about something, they will on their own time). Being a parent is a difficult task, and by no means am I saying that this is the only way to parent. Many other styles of parenting work well. Parents should want their child or children to flourish in the world and in their community. That being said, parents should not let them be a couch potato. They should want them to be active, curious, and excited to learn. They should want their child to try new things, even if they might fail at the task. Parents should help when help is needed. I could go on and on.
I do also believe that the parenting style chosen to be used also needs to be a good fit for the child. If the child is troublesome, then the parenting style should be a little stricter than if the child was very independent, and the parents had no worries about them. Which ever style is chosen, parenting and being a child go hand in hand, and work together in a way, in my opinion. The best option to choose, when and if you become a parent, is which ever style works best for you and your family.