Spotlight 2: Stress Management

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Website number one was aimed at how teens could attempt to relieve stress. Most of the ways this article states you can relieve stress can help but there is one suggestion that seems out of the teens countol. This suggestion is allow plenty of time. Some teens schedules are out of their control and therefore this is not an option for them. Other suggestions such as exercising and asking for help are great suggestions. If the teen were to use exercising as a coping strategy, the exercise must be regular and aerobic. Too much will cause harm, while not enough wont help with relief. Asking for help is another great strategy. This strategy is a form of self disclosure but depends on who you disclose to because if information is put into the wrong hands, it may cause harm. Overall, this site focused on stress relief for teens is a good source.


Website number two was aimed at how the general public could attempt to relieve stress. The strategies mentioned in this article can be taken as good coping strategies but are not directly good. The suggestion of meditation is a great strategie to use to relieve stress. This can be used to create mindfulness-based stress reduction. This strategy is typically used by Buddhist and focuses on observing oneself. The suggestion to tune into your body could also be considered a mindfulness-based stress reduction also. Getting in touch with oneself is a great coping strategy for stress.  Another great strategy that was also mentioned in Website number one was reach out and talk to someone. To repeat myself, reaching out to someone is a form of self disclosure and is a great coping strategy. This strategie can also be considered an emotion-focused coping method that typically focuses on feelings resulting directly from the stressor itself. Other strategies presented within this article may not work as well. The idea to simply be grateful may not accomplish much. While it is a good idea to be grateful for what you have, it does not take away from the stress you may be experiencing. Overall, this website has some good ideas about how to cope with stress but some may not help at all.


The third and final website I visited to assess coping strategies was one aimed at athletes specifically. This website used the acronym P.E.R.F.E.C.T.. Some good suggestions within this site was talk it out. Overall, this can be a great strategy for many people. Another suggestion that was mentioned was reverse engineer. This strategy suggests to recall a time when you performed at your best and you were confident and felt good about how you were playing. While doing this, the author suggests to try to remember what played into you doing so well. Was it your lucky shirt or a certain phrase? This may tap into the idea that if you smile you will start to feel better. Although it may not be fool proof, it may help somewhat. Overall, because these suggestions are athlete based, they will not apply to everyone but most of these could be pretty useful.


Chapter 13: Personality

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Overall, some of the personality tests matched what i believe my personality while others did not. While taking the Jung Typology Test, the results stated that I was neither introvert nor extrovert, while also perferring sensing over intuition, judging over perceiving, and feeling over thinking. I believe this test may be accurate. While I may come off as extrovert to most, I personally believe I am an introvert therefore, the statement that I do not lean toward either is accurate in my opinion. The next test called the type theory test painted my personality as one that was very sociable who excels in service occupation involving personal contact. The reason I disagree with this statement is because I do not think I excel with personal contact. The third test stated that I was an extrovert and agreeable. I agree with the agreeable result but not as much the extrovert part. The final quiz I took was the color quiz. This quiz did not give a as clear as a personality type but stated multiple different things that I would agree with. One statement that I completely agree with is that I like things to go my own way. The issue with most of these quizzes is that I could potentially be either extrovert or introvert. I am either very extrovert or very introvert. There is usually no in between. Overall, I believe that these quizzes could potentially be accurate,  but because I believe I can be very many different characteristics and personality traits, I cannot accurately assess it.

Chapter 9: Intelligence (option1)

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I truly believe that there are many factors that go into intelligence. One of them being the environment. I was gifted with the opportunity to be in one of the top public schools in Pennsylvania and a ranked school district in the nation. My high school focused on the interactions with students and did everything they could to help students succeed. Because of this, throughout my school career I have also done my best to make some sort of connection with my teachers. Something school systems could do is push for this interaction between teachers and students. I honestly believe that because of the relationship I had with my teachers, overall, I did better in school. This may be due to the fact that I enjoyed coming to class more because of my teacher or may be because I had the opportunity for one on one sessions. I think many students would benefit from one on one sessions.

Another example of something the school system could do to promote learning is implement a more interactive style of learning. I know personally getting involved in my class room has aided me when needed to recall information. Being lectured for a full class period is boring and usually turns students’ brains off by the end. Interactive learning also gives students the ability to practice their social skills which is also very important. I believe that there are many other things the school system could do to improve students; performance in the classroom, and of course everyone is different, but these changes would absolutely help a student like me.

Chapter 10: Emotion

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While taking the Berkeley “Test Your Emotional Intelligence” quiz I scored a fourteen our of twenty. Honestly, I do believe that my score reflects how well I can read emotions. The emotions that I struggled with were the more negative emotions. For example, I got fear, contempt, pain, compassion, and sadness wrong. A lot of these emotions look like each other. For the most part, I thought a lot of emotions were sadness. This may be because I express my emotions differently. This is where the test may start to lack credibility. Due to the fact that everyone expresses their emotions differently, the test may look like one person’s emotions but not another’s. Who is to say that one look conveys a specific emotion while the other one doesn’t. The easiest emotions I could tell apart were the positive emotions. Some of these emotions include happy and pride. I am not exactly sure why the more positive emotions are easier than the negative emotions. It is possible that because positive emotions are more direct and certain, it is easier to read them off of someone’s face. I could absolutely use this information in my everyday life. Realizing that people show emotions different allows me to maybe not judge one as quickly. I am not sure what is going on inside of a person and judging them based on their facial expression can sometimes lead to false ideas about what is going on. Just because someone looks angry does not mean they are mad. It may just be the persons resting face. Overall, the quiz was very informing and I learned that not everyone has the same looking emotions.

Chapter 11: Stress

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Stress is a very prominent emotion felt in almost all college students. Being a freshman, I can absolutely attest to that. Due to the fact that I can in undecided and I also currently play two sports I feel my stress levels may be higher compared to others with less responsibility. With the stress of having to perform every day in my sport, having to find the correct path for me to take and ultimately decide on a major, as well as take on the increased amounts of work compared to high school, I have encountered much more stress than I ever have before. Currently, I know my stress management activities are not great at all. Currently, when I am stressed, I will most like put off whatever is causing the stress and do my best not to think about it. This means I will sleep, or go get food, or simply just play on my phone for hours before I feel that I just need to get the stressful thing out of the way. As I am sure you can imagine this helps nothing and ends up causing more stress than I began with.

There are many different things I think I can do to properly manage my stress. The biggest thing would most likely plan out my school work and work ahead. Procrastinating and doing my best to not think about all the assignments and studying I have to do only adds to my stress. I think if I make a schedule and follow it properly, I can relieve some of the stress. I am sure there are many other strategies to help me deal with stress, maybe I should look some up sometime.

Chapter 3 Impression: Sleep

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My sleep habit personally is absolutely terrible. Typically, I either waking up at 9:15 or 10:45. I am very thankful I do not have any 8 AM’s. After my classes for the day, a very bad habit of mine is I take a nap, almost every single day. This has put me into a very bad cycle. Due to the fact that I am just so tired I honestly feel like I have to. After my nap, I go to practice of my game. This takes up a very large part of my day. Practice takes up about 3 hours (when I leave my room to when I get back), while games take up even more time depending on if it is home or away. Finally, after I am finally done, I go back to my dorm and do homework. Because of my nap during the day and my sports, I usually will not start homework until about nine or ten. This really does not help my sleep or my stress levels. Due to the late homework start, I will not go to bed until 12-2, depending on how much I have. I know for a fact that my sleep schedule is completely off and not healthy at all. Typically, I think the realistic goal for amount of sleep per night is eight hours for a college student. Although I may be getting almost that every night, I still do not feel awake or rested when I wake up in the morning. In order to improve my sleep schedule, I know that I need to stop taking naps during the day. One way I could accomplish this goal is to go to the library instead of going back to my dorm. I truly think this would fix all of the problems I have because I would be finish my homework during the day as well as be able to go to sleep much earlier.

SpotLight #1: Development

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Divorce or, the legal dissolution of a marriage, is primarily seen as negative when it comes to children and the effects on them. As divorce becomes more and more prevalent in the United States, the number of children affected by this has increased greatly. There are a number of people who believe all the effects on children are negative and the child will greatly be harmed when going through a divorce. Others, however, believe a child may escape, harm free, or maybe even with some life skills, those without divorced parents, may not have.

Negatively, both authors, Sam Bone and Jayna Solinger, believe a child’s time spent with each parent is greatly affected by divorce. Jayna Solinger, in “The Negative Effects of Divorce on Children”, uses facts and statistics, that are cited at the end of her writing, to support her argument about the negative effects in order to appeal to the ethos of the audience and prove its credibility. Sam Bone, author of “3 Negative Effects Divorce Can Have on Children” creates a sense of credibility through his profession of being a lawyer in the area of divorce. Both authors use statistics and evidence-based facts to support their claims. Although some may believe divorce can be nothing but harmful, other have shown that divorce is not always a bad thing.

The aspects of divorce that were negative were definitely harder to find making the articles that were found, not as credible as those of the negative side. Aside from this, Grant W. Mohi uses surveys and interviews to assess the impact of divorce on a young adults ability to form and maintain romantic relationships in “Positive Outcomes of Divorce: A Multi-Method Study on the Effects of Parental Divorce on Children.” This is a good way to asses and collect information and supplies good support for the claims made within the writing. Shawn Leamon’s, “Potential Positive Effects of Divorce on Children (It may not all be bad news…)” however does not have the support or evidence within his writing. Leamon’s credibility shows throw in his credentials of having an MBA and being the host of a #1 podcast. Although this may create a sense of ethos for the audience, statements made such as “children learn self-worth,” are not backed but by actual evidence, rather simple statements. Based on the information found, I believe there is a greater negative affect on children, rather than positive.

Through the research I conducted, I struggled when it came to find the information about what may not be so bad about divorce. I could not find factual studies that were backed up by support and experiments or a writing that was credible. The lack of credibility for a writing, lacks ethos, therefore making the writing feel as though it is not reliable. This was not true about the negative effects however. Each article I found had good hard evidence and explained a solid study within. Because of this reason I have to side with the negative effects of divorce on children.


Bone, Sam. “3 Negative Effects Divorce Can Have on Children.” Divorce Magazine, 8 Dec. 2017,

Leamon, Shawn. “Potential Positive Effects of Divorce on Children (It May Not All Be Bad News…).” Divorce and Your Money, Divorce and Your Money, 26 Nov. 2017,

Mohi, Grant W. “Positive Outcomes of Divorce: A Multi-Method Study on the Effects of Parental Divorce on Children .” URJ, 22 Sept. 2015, .

Solinger, Jayna. “The Effects of Divorce on Children.” ISU Public Homepage Server,

Chapter 3: Drugs

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While dealing with addiction, there are two different approaches one may choose. The abstinence model looks to diminish the addiction and promotes obriety as the goal. This model uses programs such as AA to aid in the process. Another model that could possibly be used is the harm reduction model. This model, instead of eliminating the addiction, attempts to prevent harmful effects and presents a safer way to continue the addiction. An example of this are clean needle programs who attempt to prevent further spreading of diseases.

Personally, I believe that the better approach would be the abstinence model and I would recommend this approach to a loved one needing help with an addiction. I believe this is the better approach because unlike the harm reduction model, it diminishes the addiction and promotes sobriety. While I believe the harm reduction model may be helpful to some, if the goal is to be free of the addiction, this model will not do much. This model just helps the addicted person be safer about their addiction, rather than shrinking it. I think that when handling addiction, the best route is sobriety. Through the abstinence model, most organizations will suggest a 12-step program. Within this program, an addicted person not only find sobriety, but also makes amends with those who may have been harmed by the addiction. I truly believe that this is the best way when best with addiction and if approached by a loved one, I would recommend the abstinence method.

Chapter 8 : Memory

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My study habits are most definitely not the best or most effective. Typically, in high school, I would not study ever, and I knew from the beginning, that would need to change in college. For the first exam in this class I used note cards. My first big issue was I waited absolutely too long to even start to prepare to study. I didn’t start making note cards until the day before which unquestionably hurt me. For the second exam, I will make note cards following the lesson that day on key terms and important information. Then, when the study guide comes out I will review whether or not my note cards capture everything on it. If not, I will make more. I will do this all prior to the day before the exam. The next big issue was due to the fact that I waited too long to make my note cards. Because of this, I did not start studying until late Sunday night. Which then caused me to stay up way too late to study, which is something professor MacFarlane specifically said not to do. For the next exam, I will start studying a week prior, taking it section by section. This will lead up to Sunday where I will take the practice exam. After taking the practice exam I will grade it and determine what final concepts I need to work on. While studying for my first exam, this habit of going over what I did wrong is most likely the only thing I will replicate come the second exam. I was able to get a better grasp on the information that I did not know and although it may not have been perfect, I know my exam score benefited from this practice.

Chapter 7 Impression: Learning

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Today, video games are very popular among children and young adults. The level of violence in these video games has risen, as stated in the prompt. I believe the fact that this level has risen has impacted the level of violence in everyday life. The number of shootings has sky rocketed recently and it may have something to do with the violent video games so many have becoming almost addicted too. Seeing and hearing gun shots and killing may have an effect of the mental state of the children.

Although I do not believe the answer is to ban video games, I do believe there should be stricter rules on the age requirement. A child of a young age being exposed to this type of violence may make them think it is okay when it absolutely is not. Something must change in order to lessen the gun violence. I am not saying that violent video games are the only reason, or even a primary reason to the gun violence but I do believe it plays a role.