--Original published at MaddieHinson
Being raised in a household that was more strict than my friends growing up, I would always say, “When I have kids, I’m never treating them like this.” That would especially be the line when my parents wouldn’t let me do something, or made me do my homework or chores. However, now that I have moved out of their house, and gained a little knowledge and perspective from being an adult, I can see how their parenting methods made me the person who I am today, and I am grateful for it.
I think that you can read all the books and do as much research you can on being the “Best” parent, but you are never going to be prepared for it until it is actually happening to you. I think that it’s helpful to have someone by your side that has similar values as you kind of as a support system throughout this experience. I also think it is important to realize that you are not going to be perfect and make a few mistakes and that you can tell that to your child. It’s good for them to know that you are still learning about life also, and you can admit that.
Another part of being a parent is to spend time with your kids, and make them a priority. When you have a baby, your life is not about you anymore and in order for your relationship with your child to grow, you are going to need to make sacrifices for them. Then from those sacrifices you can teach your children how to be grateful for what they do have and to be humble and not selfish.
I do think although it would be my least favorite part, that discipline is something every kid needs to have growing up. There’s some controversy over the types of discipline, but I think whatever is most effective for your child is what’s best. They need to learn respect, because that will carry with them throughout life, into school, and then in jobs. I think that teaching your kids a good work ethic is extremely important as well.
Another part of parenting that is important for long-term relationships is the open communication between the parents and the child. I think it’s important that a child should feel like they can come to their parent with any problems or issues they can be having and know the parents are there for them. Being a parent, you have an advantage because you have experience growing up and probably had a lot of the same issues their kid is going through, and so it’s easier to relate to them and share the knowledge of how to get through it.