--Original published at David's Blog
For the first spot light blog post I decided to choose the first option which was on divorce and how it effects children. This topic interest me the most because I wanted to find out if it’s almost always guaranteed to have negative effects on children or little or no effect at all.
“Many divorced spouses are in and out of court all of the time. Family lawyers are fond of saying ‘litigation is recreation for divorced parents.’ There are ugly e-mails, violent phone calls, and frequent trips to family court.” told by Dr. Jann Gumbiner from Phycology Today. This is definitely never good for the kids. In most situations, children who hear or see violent or inappropriate tendencies from their parents, are then more likely to repeat or imitate the actions of their parents.
“The experience of divorce can also create problems that do not appear until the late teenage years or adulthood.” wrote Hal Arkowitz from Scientific American. This article goes on to talk about the major impact on kids. The most common problem for children in divorce situations is depression.
Both these articles lay out a clear underline how divorce majorly impacts the kids physiologically. One of the sources was written by a doctor and the other was published on a scientific site. So I believe the article brings up serious matters and are very precedent. This definitely sways me more towards divorce being bad for kids but we will take a look at the other side.
“Children who grew up in high conflict families fared better in their adult relationships if their parents got a divorce.” stated Rachael Rettner of Live Science. I myself have seen this put to practice, when you have parents who constantly fight and argue it greatly i’m pacts the kids. But if the parents split early and fight less the children can develop more properly. With better development comes better adult relationships like stated in the article.
“Staying for the children can seem like ‘the only right thing to do,’ but it is not in all cases.” told by Susan P. Gadoua of Psychology Today. There are too many times when parents believe its the best to stay together for the kids but it only tares the family further and further apart. You can still be a “family” even though your not all together it’s just a different type of family.
These articles manly stress how its actually better to be divorced if you are not in a happy or stable relationship. In the end its the kids who should matter the most not your own personal feelings. Both the articles were written on scientific websites the provide a lot more information about divorce.
To conclude this blog post I will decided on which side I personally think is right. I have gone over these articles and tried to look at both sides to determine the best answer and I have even used my own personal findings in this matter. The side I would go with would be that divorce doesn’t have much effect on the kids. I’m only going with this side by taking in the factor the parents handle it correctly, if this can be achieved children will be less likely to develop physiological problems later in life.
- Arkowitz, Hal. “Is Divorce Bad for Children?” Scientific American, 1 Mar. 2013, http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/is-divorce-bad-for-children/.
- Gadoua, Susan. “Divorce Doesn’t Harm Children – Parents Fighting Harms Child.” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, 15 Nov. 2009, http://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/contemplating-divorce/200911/divorce-doesnt-harm-children-parents-fighting-harms-child.
- Gumbiner, Jann. “Divorce Hurts Children, Even Grown Ones.” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, http://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-teenage-mind/201110/divorce-hurts-children-even-grown-ones.
- Rettner, Rachael. “Divorce Not Always Bad for Kids.” LiveScience, Purch, 30 June 2010, http://www.livescience.com/6648-divorce-bad-kids.html.